I started writing part 2 almost one year ago, 9/2009. I've been doing some serious soul searching since then. And in true analytical virgo fashion, my own self analysis of my dating processes has come alive. I started analyzing relationships just to help me figure out what I'm doing wrong. Now I think it time to turn the other cheek and see if from a different light.
A Before and After Analysis
BEFORE
A good friend told me "you gotta put yourself OUT there", for people to see.
Ok so what does that really mean?
I mean my usual plan: Happy Hour! Notorious as the social mecca for business men and women. A gap of time where its financially cheap and cost effective for drink binging...Happy hour! I found that that span of time was more trouble then it seemed. I had a Happy hour plan. I sat there smiled a whole bunch. Drink a fancy martini, or try the bar's fancy concoctions and wait for unassuming prey. Whether it was the bartender or the next guy that walks in, they had to be somewhat good looking. Now isn't that a great plan for "putting yourself out there"?
One things for sure I haven't been successful in finding anyone.
All traditional tactics have gone out the door. So it true, perhaps the one person "right" for me might be under my nose?
AFTER
Understanding my "must haves" List:
Must haves- chemistry, communicator, sense of humor, strong character, patience, conflict resolver, affectionate, intellect, self confident, adaptability, kindness, tolerant, loyal attractive.
Values- family life, autonomy, shared interests, sociability, staying in, spiritual acceptance, responsible, sexually passionate.
Ok, so i REALLY like making lists. I guess it helps me compartamentalize what I want, and I put a tangible list to what only imagination can make up. But I am soon realizing that I can't make lists in regards to love.
Why can't there be a build-a-bear for men?
